The name Boaz is not new to those of us who grew up in church and those of us who found ourselves in church somehow. The story of BOAZ in Ruth 2 has become a cornerstone for finding love, finding the one and keeping him/her. I know the impact of this story first hand because i have encountered so many of BOAZ’s cousins in my lifetime and by the grace of God, i have managed to run away and flee for my life every single time.
Today, i thought i would share with you all my lessons from the story of Boaz and Ruth and hopefully they will save someone’s heart from a heartbreak and disappointments. The story of Boaz is a story for each and everyone of us who is still in this journey of finding the one and those who have found the one and are wondering whether to keep that person.
The story of Boaz is an interesting one. Ruth went to the field to collect grain so that she would have what to eat. While collecting grain, Boaz came to the field and said “The Lord be with you!”. That right there is the first lesson. Boaz knew the Lord and Boaz was a Godly man. There are so many cousins of Boaz today in that field. The i-know-the-Lord-but-talk-differently kind. The man you meet on the first date and his first words are utter nonsense. The ones who see your sexy body before anything. The ones who are interested in what is underneath your clothes. That kind of man is not your Boaz.
When i was in my 3rd year at the university, a friend of mine could not stop pestering me to meet her cousin who apparently had a crush on me. After so many days of being pestered, i eventually gave in to a date with this man. Fast forward, i arrived at this restaurant to meet this guy. I walked to his table and he stood up for a quick hug. What happened next was something that showed me that he was a cousin of Boaz; the i-will-grab-your-bum cousin. That hug must be the most awkward hug i have had all my life. To top it all, that man’s mouth was filthy!!! Jesus! I just wanted to get detergent and bleach to scrub his mouth because his language was just unacceptable.
Sadly though, that represents so many many today. They masquerade as Boaz but their language is pathetic. They curse, swear and insult. Unfortunately, this is very true for women today. I have come across so many women who swear worse than sailors. That one is not your Ruth.
The story of Boaz goes on. Boaz noticed Ruth and asked the overseer who she was. After hearing about her, he told her “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.”
Boaz cares. Boaz protects. Boaz defends! A good man is not seen; a GOOD MAN IS FELT! This applies to a GOOD WOMAN TOO. If he does not care about how you got home or how you slept, he is not Boaz. If he wont defend you, then rest assured that he is not your BOAZ. In this category are three cousins of Boaz; the cheating-az, the lazy-az and the beatingyour-az. Those three cousins are very dangerous. A man who beats you is not Boaz. Regardless of the circumstances, if he beats you, he is not Boaz. If he is cheating, he is not Boaz. Excuse me, but cheating is not and has never been an accident. People do not trip and fall into private parts of others. It is a willingful act, whether negligent or not.
Ruth wanted to hear why Boaz was extending courtesy to her. So she asked “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?” This right here is what we call CLARITY. Clarity that many relationships do not have. Many people today are walking un-defined paths! They cannot tell if they are in a relationship, a situationship or a friendship. Boaz will not allow you to be confused about the journey you are taking. RUTH should not engage in undefined things.
Boaz replied to Ruth ““I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. 12 May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.”
This speaks volumes. THE POWER OF A GOOD TESTIMONY. What do the people around you talk about your Ruth and your Boaz? Many people have got their hearts broken just because they wont listen. They fall in love and lose sight of the use of their head and ears. Where i come from, my people have a saying that he who does not hear sails in a boat made of clay. The whole world cannot be saying wrong things about that one person but you still keep his/her company.
The story of Ruth and Boaz goes on. In chapter 3, Ruth gets advice from her mother-in-law and goes and lays down at the feet of Boaz while he slept. In the middle of the night, Boaz was startled by Ruth and when he asked her what she was doing, Ruth told him that he was her kinsman-redeemer. So she lay at his feet until morning, but got up before anyone could be recognized; and he said, “No one must know that a woman came to the threshing floor.”
Now this is where the cousins of Boaz and Ruth fall. BOAZ AND RUTH WILL PROTECT YOUR REPUTATION. The relationships today are interesting; people badmouth each other, gossip about their girlfriends and boyfriends behind their backs and tell the whole world about all the faults of their relationship. Total rubbish. Boaz and Ruth will protect your reputation even after the relationship ends!
I could go and on about Boaz and Ruth but in short, the journey to finding Boaz and Ruth has never been easy. After you are done dealing with his cousins; the drunk, lying, good for nothing, cheating, lazy, violent ones, allow yourself to find the one for you. I repeat; A GOOD MAN/WOMAN IS NOT SEEN BUT FELT. If it doesnt feel right, then it is not right.